Insightful Retired Husband

Loafer · 04-17-2013, 02:03 PM

I know this is long, but it's good advice.

It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are over sensitive, and there's nothing worse than an over sensitive woman.

My name is Norm. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for my wife to get a full-time job, along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed. Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work.
Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club, so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner.
I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.

Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, Boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement I tell her to stretch it out over two, or even three days. That way, she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.

When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half-finished mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me, too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support my wife I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, Guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.

LOAFER'S NOTE:

Norm was rushed to medical care for a perforated rectum. The police report says he was found with a Calloway extra-long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip showing, and a sledge hammer lying nearby. His wife was arrested and charged with domestic assault. The all-women jury took only 10 minutes to find her 'Not Guilty', accepting her defense that Norm, somehow without looking, accidentally sat down on his golf club.

**cnc** · 04-17-2013, 02:07 PM

I think Ron is just your pen name Gerry!

Loafer · 04-17-2013, 02:26 PM

Who is Ron?

caribou · 04-17-2013, 03:59 PM

I have heard of women losing their sanity as they age. I can't think of any other reason for such an outburst of violent action towards a man so deserving of sainthood.

Old Bear · 04-17-2013, 05:13 PM

And THAT'S why I don't play golf!

Fishing is a much safer sport!

**cnc** · 04-17-2013, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Loafer

Who is Ron white?

This is not time to play jeopardy Gerry, I'm going to recuperate with Tim.

BagginAndStreakin · 04-17-2013, 09:25 PM

I should read that to my wife. She WILL think I'm a saint afterwards! Perspective, perspective, perspective!!!

**ringadingh** · 04-17-2013, 09:52 PM

If she had the energy to do that to Norm, he must not have kept her busy enough.....

**cnc** · 04-17-2013, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by ringadingh

If she had the energy to do that to Norm, he must not have kept her busy enough.....

I don't even golf, I just said what's that club fore!

04-17-2013, 02:03 PM	#1
Loafer Sr. Contributor Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 18,287	Insightful Retired Husband I know this is long, but it's good advice. It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are over sensitive, and there's nothing worse than an over sensitive woman. My name is Norm. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for my wife to get a full-time job, along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed. Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club, so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed. Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, Boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement I tell her to stretch it out over two, or even three days. That way, she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points. When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half-finished mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me, too. I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support my wife I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, Guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other. LOAFER'S NOTE: Norm was rushed to medical care for a perforated rectum. The police report says he was found with a Calloway extra-long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip showing, and a sledge hammer lying nearby. His wife was arrested and charged with domestic assault. The all-women jury took only 10 minutes to find her 'Not Guilty', accepting her defense that Norm, somehow without looking, accidentally sat down on his golf club. __________________ Gerry Martineau / 802 VT / VBA #0892 /[email]glmjgm@gmail.com[email] Last edited by Loafer; 04-17-2013 at 04:53 PM.

04-17-2013, 02:07 PM	#2
cnc Join Date: May 2009 Location: Montreal QC Posts: 12,034	I think Ron is just your pen name Gerry! __________________ Norm Ward 2008 blue / silver nomad kawanow / VBA #01136

04-17-2013, 02:26 PM	#3
Loafer Sr. Contributor Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 18,287	Who is Ron? __________________ Gerry Martineau / 802 VT / VBA #0892 /[email]glmjgm@gmail.com[email]

04-17-2013, 03:59 PM	#4
caribou Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Bancroft,Id. Posts: 335	I have heard of women losing their sanity as they age. I can't think of any other reason for such an outburst of violent action towards a man so deserving of sainthood. __________________ Tad "Caribou" Jensen VBA #1976 Bancroft,Idaho 2012 Electa Glide Classic 2003 Nomad FI(Past) _______________________________ I ain't never been lost, powerfull confused for a month or two, but never lost.

04-17-2013, 05:13 PM	#5
Old Bear Sr. Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Clarksville, TN Posts: 1,434	And THAT'S why I don't play golf! Fishing is a much safer sport! __________________ Jerry "Old Bear" Barker Clarksville, TN Americas Guardians PS MC President, Tennessee 16-A VBA #02203 "Blaze" 2017 Vaquero "Black Magic" 2011 Vaquero, 69k miles, handed down to my son for hopefully many more miles!

04-17-2013, 09:25 PM	#7
BagginAndStreakin Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Chattanooga Posts: 182	I should read that to my wife. She WILL think I'm a saint afterwards! Perspective, perspective, perspective!!!

04-17-2013, 09:52 PM	#8
ringadingh Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Newmarket Ontario Canada Posts: 35,387	If she had the energy to do that to Norm, he must not have kept her busy enough..... __________________ 2002 Nomad aka Bountyhunter VBA #27 VROC #18951